Having sex is about the performance, not the actual act. I have been performing for men in variety of ways, whether it is saying the right words, moaning at the appropriate times, or just assuming the position. However, some men like to throw you a curve ball and say things like "Sex to me is meaningful." I cringe a little. Sex, in my mind, is not meaningful, but another opportunity for me to express my control of the situation through the use of my body. I wonder, how is sex supposed to mean something? I like being loud for the sake of being loud, so that maybe others will hear. Having my hair pulled is just another affirmation that I am doing a good job. If sex has meaning, I can't find it. Nor do I think I want to.